This too shall pass!
It had been 4 months of being cooped under the same
roof as my sister and brother. I remember being happy when I got to know I
could take a break from all the stress and pressure at college and relax at
home for a week, before diving headfirst into exams. The first one week had me
feeling blessed at the thought of having such a supportive family. As the weeks
passed by, the ideal siblinghood began to collapse. It was so gradual that we
didn’t realize when we started getting on each other’s nerves. It had been
seven years since we were forcibly stuck together for this long a time that we
forgot that there were infinite little quirks that we disliked about each
other. Every other day, there would be a heated argument, with one screaming at
the top of their lungs, another dissolving in tears, while the third played the
role of the mediator. I just couldn’t get it: I’ve always been a family person,
enjoying their company to that of friends. My entire being lights up when I
talk about them. What went wrong? I remember crying myself to sleep, scared of
my own thoughts and feelings about my siblings.
It was then I heard one of my professors talk about
proximity stress; the frustration one feels when they are surrounded by the
same people day in and day out, she said. The fact that you are no longer in
proximal contact with different faces (at school or work) and are forced to
minimize interaction within the confines of your home can be rather demanding.
She reminded the audience that this was a common expression in most homes
during this lockdown. My support system was not disintegrating and my
frustrations were not misplaced – the relief this realization brought me was
immense. That pep talk helped me to evaluate my feelings and those of others
and to realize that the helplessness and supposed hatred were temporary and
would pass.
To all those out there in a similar situation
(conversations with friends have revealed that there are many), your feelings
are valid. Don’t beat yourself around because you’re easily getting riled up,
instead give yourself time to process your thoughts. Think over them and remind
yourself to externalize those negative thoughts. This season is a time to pause
and reflect. This season is a time to heal yourself and grow. This season is
temporary and it shall pass!
Comments
Post a Comment