Being Confident in yourself

                                    

Listening to a TED talk, seeing someone emceeing or debating confidently on a topic on stage, have you often wondered how can a person be this comfortable in their own skin? I can tell from personal experience that this has been a constant question in my mind each time I encounter these kind of people.

‘How do they do it?

‘Is it really that easy to get on stage and start off a discussion?’

‘How do you converse with people without being worried about whether you can carry across what you want to without stammering?’

‘Do I present myself positively in front of others?’

These are just few among the myriad of questions that I myself and few others who I’ve asked about this have often wondered.

At this day and age, it really is difficult to be confident in yourself considering the various societal norms that have been put upon us.

The current social norms about physical appearance often sends people into a spiral of self-depreciating thoughts. This is a constant discussion in almost all social media platforms. Influencers, revolve themselves around promoting body positivity. A theme that many consider to be overdone, the negative aspects on the mental health of those being body shamed cannot be emphasized more. It often leads to low self confidence and even depressive symptoms.

This online platform for conducting classes are often intimidating to many. The intellect and knowledge that their classmates possess leaves you at awe. A usually chirpy person might keep quite for most of the part during classes because of the environment. This is all part of growing. Being put across various situations and allowing yourself to adapt to it in your own way.

It is a natural human tendency to identify the various flaws they possess. Have you noticed, when someone appreciates you or your work, the satisfaction is temporary. But when someone criticizes you or you yourself try to find flaws, the low feeling lasts a long while.

There are some things certain people are good at that you may not be so. Comparing yourself to others has never helped anyone. In your eyes, there’s always going to be one other person in the room, better than you. Not everyone has the answers to everything and that’s okay. You might be thinking, this is easier said than done, and yes, that’s true! It never is easy. Life does not stop putting you in difficult situations making you question your worth. And over time you learn to believe in yourself. Overcoming your fears and insecurities is not an easy job. It sometimes takes weeks or even years of effort and energy to create an identity for yourself, one that you can be content in.

Surround yourself with people you can resonate with, with people who allow you to express yourself and those who consider your personal growth as one of their own needs. Be positive and don’t allow yourself to constantly ponder over what others think about you. Believe that you can achieve what you want no matter what!

Broaden your horizons, identify and acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses. Accept your flaws and if you think it is something you want to or can improve on, then do it. If not, embrace them, and identify yourself with them.